How to keep the romance alive in a marriage not as hard as you think

The beat thing about marriage is sharing. This will be the answer of most successful marriage couple if you will be asking them about the romance in marriage. Both can enjoy the romance even if only one initiates sharing. Romance is an activity that cannot work without the participation of both. Sharing is really very important in a relationship. If you have decided that romance will keep your marriage alive, and if you want to improve the romance on your marriage, you need to work out on this part. You will need to plan your romance in advance on both of your minds. If you will be giving gifts to your partner, make sure that the gift you are giving will affect your partner. The impact to your partner must be good. Never chose a gift that will insult you partner. Tell your partner how special this gift means to you. A present may not be expensive. Choose a gift that your partner will remember. In this way, both of you will enjoy the romance and will continue to become romantic if you are able to handle it well. Even if you think of giving gifts to your loved one, the gift you must give need not be expensive. You do not have to spend much money to be romantic. You can start a plan before your partners break at work. Then you can devote all the time in that day with your partner. You can give your partner a soothing massage, foot scrub, back rub, and do the shores together and many more worthwhile activities that will make the bond stronger. You can let your partner decide on what is the possible thing to do to enhance the romance between the two of you. Think about something special. You can treat your partner in a local honeymoon trip. You can visit a local hotel and spend the whole day and night for honeymoon. It does not need to be expensive; you just have to make sure to include champagne, strawberries and whipped cream in your honey moon package. You can do your thing while playing a nice, romantic, mood setting music in your honeymoon suite. You can add a special twist in this rare occasion. You can pack your partners bag and tell your partner on what are your plans in this activity. Blind fold your partner and lead your partner to the honeymoon suite. This can add thrill to your romantic relationship. Before you can start up your local honeymoon, go to the nearest shop and look for a card that you can give your partner. Buy as many cards as you can do not limit your chance to be romantic. Choose a card to where you can write how you feel about your partner‘s great romantic influence in your life. You can choose to send it before this special moment starts or even every month, every week or every waking hour. You can cook for your loved one as well. During weekend, try to give your partner a special menu that includes all the favorite food. Add some sweetness by baking sweet cakes and cookies. This will make your partner love your more. Of which ever idea is going to work for your loved one make sure to include your heart to every activity you do. Remember that in anything you do that most important thing is that your together.

Christian sex 7 barriers to fulfilling married sexuality

Many Christian married couples have yet to experience a fulfilling sexuality. Yet, it is an essential ingredient for a vital Christian marriage. Here are 7 barriers to a fun and fulfilling lovemaking for Christian married couples 1. Not knowing what God says about sex The first commandment God gave was to engage in sex (Genesis 1: 27-28.) God had just created humanity in His image, commanded them to be “fruitful and multiply”, and then commented “it was good” (Genesis 1:31.) Somehow, it seems like this was a priority for Adam and Eve. 2. Talking very little with your spouse about sexuality or your preferences. When couples can share with their spouse about sexuality or their sexual preferences, intimacy is created. An emotional bond results from the intimate level of vulnerability on a conversational level. A great place to start talking about sex is to share what lovemaking means to you emotionally, how frequent you would like to have sex, and even times of the day or specific days. 3. Engaging out of obligation, rather than enjoyment Many believe sex was solely intended for procreation, rather than recreation. To the contrary, the poetic references in the Song of Solomon describe lovemaking that is enjoyable and anticipated. Feel free to have some fun with sex with different positions and places. However, all must be with respect for your spouse’s considerations. I Corinthians 1:4 states that our bodies belong to our mates, not just us. It is written from a spirit of equality, where both spouses are to serve one another, rather than one controlling the other. For one spouse to force the other into sexual behaviors without consent is abusive. 4 Failure to plan Many couples, Christians especially, are sexually frustrated. While some of this may be attributed to different sexual appetites, much more is a result of infrequency. Sex is never convenient, but is critical to a vital relationship. Plan for sex like you would any other appointment. Rather than thinking of this as stale, consider that it allows you and your spouse time to plan for the special time together. Planning also alleviates any concerns for sexual deprivation and sexual pressure. 5. Using sex as a reward or punishment Sex is often used as a reward for some positive behavior. Or it can be withheld when one spouse is angry with the other. Couples sabotage themselves when their sex life becomes a bartering system. Because of its vulnerability, lovemaking must be unconditional to be meaningful. Find other ways to thank your spouse, and healthy ways to overcome your resentments. 6. Unresolved sexual abuse issues Sexual abuse issues follow spouses into marriage. Victims of sexual abuse may have an aversion to lovemaking, or experience painful reminders of the past. For some, there may be a distortion of healthy sexuality. If you have been wounded from sexual abuse, realize that you did nothing to deserve this. Furthermore, there is hope. I encourage you to find a counselor that specializes in this area, and begin the road to recovery. It is one thing to survive sexual abuse, and another to overcome it. 7. Pornography The most significant destructive force to a healthy sex life is pornography. And yes, I am talking about Christian marriages. Images are burned into a person’s mind, thereby creating an insatiable thirst for more erotic behavior, or harmful behaviors. Some couples have stated the use of pornography enhances their sex life. I disagree. Not only is it degrading, but it fosters empty relationships by focusing on the physical rather than love. If your marriage has been affected by pornography, find a qualified counselor to help you rebuild the intimacy in your marriage. In my experience as a Christian counselor, a lot of confusion exists amongst married couples regarding a healthy Christian sex life. The reality is that God has given sex as a gift for married couples to embrace rather than tolerate, or misuse. So much of today’s culture promotes a contaminated view of sex. As Christians, let’s change our culture by strengthening our marriages with a healthy Christian sexuality